Monday, 28 July 2025

The Missing Middle: Aragorn and the True Masculine: Between brute and ghost walks the man we were meant to be.

 

Scroll through the internet long enough, and you’ll see them:

The “alpha male” podcasters barking dominance tips.
The “beta male” memes apologizing for existing.
And somewhere in the mix, the “sigma male” lone-wolf TikToks telling you to drink black coffee at 4 a.m. and ignore women altogether.

It’s chaos out there.
Everyone’s flinging mud, chest-thumping or self-loathing.
And still—no one seems to know what a man actually is.


Where’s the Missing Middle?

The extremes are easy to caricature:

  • Brutish Alpha: Muscles, ego, zero compassion.

  • Delicate Beta: Gentle, agreeable, allergic to conflict.

But where is the whole man—the one with courage and compassion, strength and service?
That figure feels almost mythical in modern discourse.


Enter Aragorn

Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings quietly answers the question we’ve forgotten how to ask.

Aragorn isn’t loud about his strength—he’s a ranger, content in obscurity.
Yet when destiny calls, he rises with quiet authority.
He leads armies but kneels beside the wounded.
He wields the sword but also the healer’s hands.

He doesn’t need to scream “alpha” or retreat into “beta.”
He simply embodies what the ancients called virtue—wholeness.


Christ’s Echo

Tolkien, a devout Catholic, didn’t write allegory,
but Aragorn is unmistakably Christ-haunted:

  • A hidden king, revealed in the fullness of time.

  • A warrior who conquers through sacrifice.

  • A healer who restores the broken.

Even the prophecy—“the hands of the king are the hands of a healer”—feels like a whisper of Jesus washing feet and healing lepers.


Why We Still Ache for Him

In a world obsessed with extremes, Aragorn’s quiet balance feels alien—
and yet deeply human.

Jesus Himself embodied it first:
Lion and Lamb.
Table-flipper and Child-embracer.
King and Servant.

We long for that wholeness.
Not another caricature of masculinity,
but the Man in whom strength and tenderness kiss.


Tagline:

“Between brute and ghost walks the man we were meant to be.”

Scroll through the internet long enough, and you’ll see them:
The “alpha male” podcasters barking dominance tips.
The “beta male” memes apologizing for existing.
And somewhere in the mix, the “sigma male” lone-wolf TikToks telling you to drink black coffee at 4 a.m. and ignore women altogether.

It’s chaos out there.
Everyone’s flinging mud, chest-thumping or self-loathing.
And still—no one seems to know what a man actually is.


Where’s the Missing Middle?

The extremes are easy to caricature:

  • Brutish Alpha: Muscles, ego, zero compassion.

  • Delicate Beta: Gentle, agreeable, allergic to conflict.

But where is the whole man—the one with courage and compassion, strength and service?
That figure feels almost mythical in modern discourse.


Enter Aragorn

Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings quietly answers the question we’ve forgotten how to ask.

Aragorn isn’t loud about his strength—he’s a ranger, content in obscurity.
Yet when destiny calls, he rises with quiet authority.
He leads armies but kneels beside the wounded.
He wields the sword but also the healer’s hands.

He doesn’t need to scream “alpha” or retreat into “beta.”
He simply embodies what the ancients called virtue—wholeness.


Christ’s Echo

Tolkien, a devout Catholic, didn’t write allegory,
but Aragorn is unmistakably Christ-haunted:

  • A hidden king, revealed in the fullness of time.

  • A warrior who conquers through sacrifice.

  • A healer who restores the broken.

Even the prophecy—“the hands of the king are the hands of a healer”—feels like a whisper of Jesus washing feet and healing lepers.


Why We Still Ache for Him

In a world obsessed with extremes, Aragorn’s quiet balance feels alien—
and yet deeply human.

Jesus Himself embodied it first:
Lion and Lamb.
Table-flipper and Child-embracer.
King and Servant.

We long for that wholeness.
Not another caricature of masculinity,
but the Man in whom strength and tenderness kiss.


Tagline:

“Between brute and ghost walks the man we were meant to be.”

Scroll through the internet long enough, and you’ll see them:
The “alpha male” podcasters barking dominance tips.
The “beta male” memes apologizing for existing.
And somewhere in the mix, the “sigma male” lone-wolf TikToks telling you to drink black coffee at 4 a.m. and ignore women altogether.

It’s chaos out there.
Everyone’s flinging mud, chest-thumping or self-loathing.
And still—no one seems to know what a man actually is.


Where’s the Missing Middle?

The extremes are easy to caricature:

  • Brutish Alpha: Muscles, ego, zero compassion.

  • Delicate Beta: Gentle, agreeable, allergic to conflict.

But where is the whole man—the one with courage and compassion, strength and service?
That figure feels almost mythical in modern discourse.


Enter Aragorn

Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings quietly answers the question we’ve forgotten how to ask.

Aragorn isn’t loud about his strength—he’s a ranger, content in obscurity.
Yet when destiny calls, he rises with quiet authority.
He leads armies but kneels beside the wounded.
He wields the sword but also the healer’s hands.

He doesn’t need to scream “alpha” or retreat into “beta.”
He simply embodies what the ancients called virtue—wholeness.


Christ’s Echo

Tolkien, a devout Catholic, didn’t write allegory,
but Aragorn is unmistakably Christ-haunted:

  • A hidden king, revealed in the fullness of time.

  • A warrior who conquers through sacrifice.

  • A healer who restores the broken.

Even the prophecy—“the hands of the king are the hands of a healer”—feels like a whisper of Jesus washing feet and healing lepers.


Why We Still Ache for Him

In a world obsessed with extremes, Aragorn’s quiet balance feels alien—
and yet deeply human.

Jesus Himself embodied it first:
Lion and Lamb.
Table-flipper and Child-embracer.
King and Servant.

We long for that wholeness.
Not another caricature of masculinity,
but the Man in whom strength and tenderness kiss.



Monday, 21 July 2025

Her Head Blew Clean Off


An ordinary Tuesday, a glowing rectangle, and something unexplainable.

—From the balcony of wonder


She was sitting across from my balcony,

perched on the top floor of that old yellow apartment that probably leaks when it rains.


Just a regular Tuesday.

She had that small glowing rectangle in her hand—phone, obviously.

Laughing, scrolling, occasionally making that little face people make when something’s just mildly amusing but not worth a real laugh.

You know the one.


Then—boom.

Her head blew clean off.


No, not literally.

There was no blood, no screaming, no Netflix documentary to follow.


But I swear to you—one second she was chill and composed, and the next, she looked like she had just seen something eternal.

Like her soul had walked barefoot into a cathedral.


She kept staring at her screen.

Completely still.

Mouth slightly open.

Like a question mark that forgot what it was asking.


I leaned forward, curious.

What kind of TikTok does that to a person?


She never looked up, but I could almost hear her thinking, like radio static tuned to wonder.


Later—thanks to social sleuthing (and a shameless amount of zooming)—I found the verse she read:


“…that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love.

I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints,

what is the breadth and length and height and depth,

and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge,

so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”

— Ephesians 3:17–19


That’s what did it.


That’s what blew her up.

Some ancient prayer, sitting there like a time-bomb in her feed.


She believed in love—sure.

 “Said a mother’s love was the highest form. (Pam would’ve nodded—we all know the weight of that.)”

But this wasn’t just sentiment.

This was tectonic.

“Filled with the fullness of God”?

Who even writes like that?


Whatever happened up there—on that balcony, on that Tuesday—it rewired something.


She’s still the same. Mostly.

But now, when she looks at the sky,

she pauses a little longer.

Like someone who saw infinity blink.


#That Pam's reference is from the book by CS Lewis, The Great Divorce 😌

Sunday, 6 July 2025

When Absurdity Sets the Table


Nietzsche called Dostoyevsky “the only psychologist from whom I have anything to learn.” And it shows. Long before Existentialism had a label, Dostoyevsky was digging tunnels into the darkness of the human soul — where freedom and suffering, pride and pity, God and evil clash like iron gates at midnight.  

He gives us the Underground Man: conflicted, raw, licking his wounds like a rat in a cellar. He shows us how we sabotage ourselves — replaying slights, dreaming of revenge, locking ourselves behind walls built for safety.  

Yet through the gloom, Dostoyevsky whispers: “There’s something more.”  

Camus called it “Absurdism” — the collision of a senseless world with a heart that craves meaning. 

Kierkegaard called it “the leap” — faith when reason fails at the cliff’s edge.  

I know this tension. 

Life is absurd. Chaotic. Unfair. Silent. 

Suffering rattles my faith like a stone against stained glass. 

And yet I ask: “To whom shall I go?”  

I am finite. Three pounds of grey matter grasping at the Infinite. 

If I could contain God in my skull, I’d be God — but I’m not.  

So I trust anyway. 

Despite the tension. 

Despite the silence. 

Despite the cellar’s cold creeping into my bones.  

Some call it cold comfort. 

But I ask: Would despair taste sweeter? 

Would loneliness warm me better than this fragile hope?  

No. 

I’d rather wrestle God in the dark than sing anthems to emptiness. 

I’d rather crawl toward the Table set for me — the one that doesn’t humiliate. 

Toward the Friend who offers not shallow toasts, but His own blood for my dignity.  

This is the paradox I carry: 

Absurdity and grace. 

Doubt and hope. 

Cracks in my cellar walls — and the Light that slips through anyway.  

When the world screams nonsense... 

When I am nonsense... 

He remains the final Word. 

 

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